Men have a really hard time, right from expectations to taking care of financial matters to the pressure to perform on bed and it does put then in spot of trouble because failure is not an option. Here are 10 women describe 10 things that men have it harder in life according to them.
1. Stay lonely or make the first move.
“Either crippling loneliness or the expectation you will have to make the first move (and get ignored).”
2. In any physical altercation with a woman, you are always wrong.
“Whenever my brother and I got into a fight as kids, it could only end one of two ways for him:
‘You got beat up by a girl? What’s the matter with you?’
‘You beat up a girl? What’s the matter with you?’”
3. The double standard of abuse.
Women walks up to a guy, kisses him as a dare, is forward living, adventurous and fun person. Role reverse and men is Abuser, harasser, nymph, sadist, desperate.
4. Men have to shoulder the financial weight of family.
“I feel bad for guys that have to shoulder the entire financial weight of their families. Like my husband, since we have small kids we agreed I’d stop working for a while. Although he earns good money and I’m pretty good at managing a budget, I do feel bad for him as he’s entirely responsible for keeping our family afloat.
5. Not have a support group, when it comes to body image.
“I think the worst part would be not having a supportive group of friends, especially when it comes to body image. As a woman, you can say ‘I feel ugly today’ and whether you look good or not, you’ll have several friends (if you have them) saying that you should always love yourself and your body. Whereas for men, it’s seen as gay or feminine to complement each other. That sounds like it sucks.”
6. A crazy girl can destroy a man’s life.
“With all the rape allegations that seem to be going around, I am terrified on men’s behalf. All it takes is one crazy, looney tune chick to completely destroy a man’s life. Whatever happened to innocent until proven guilty? I worry for the good-hearted, hard-working men in my life; I worry they will one day upset a female client or colleague and they’ll lie and say they did something they didn’t do, and they’ll get fired, divorced, prosecuted, shunned from society, etc.”
“Penis size/sexual performance. It seems men are under so much more pressure than women to perform well in bed. We expect them to use their hands, mouths, and dicks just right and be great at it every time, or they aren’t ‘manly’ (I’ll admit it—I’m guilty of this). Also, I can’t imagine the pressure and anxiety regarding penis size. I mean, as long as a woman has a wet hole, he’s probably going to like it—most vaginas are pretty similar and aren’t judged that harshly (to my knowledge). But for men, so much hinges on what they were born with between the legs.
Also, it’s always their job to go check out the scary bump in the night, and then take care of it, whether it be a ghost or murderer. I damn sure wouldn’t want that responsibility.”
8. Mistaken to be prude because of your gender and size.
“My brother is a pretty big dude: 6 ft, 230, fit. We were out one night, walking back to the parking garage. He was about 20 yards ahead of me and I notice him wait to cross the street until the parking garage was directly across from him. I thought that was odd and asked him why he did that and he said that he noticed a girl walking alone on the other side of the street and he didn’t want to scare her by crossing the street towards her and walking behind her.
I think that would suck. Knowing you’re a good dude who would never hurt anyone and still have women fear you because of your gender and size.”
9. Men get a lot less attention than women do.
“You kind of have to take it on a case-by-case basis, but generally speaking, men get a lot less attention than women do. For some guys this is a great thing, but for other guys it’s terrible. For me, I’ve dealt with a lot of anxiety, fear, and depression for most of my life and it has really crippled every area of my life where I could potentially be successful. I don’t mean to come across as a bitter asshole, but I know that if I were a girl that I would have a reliable support group of friends and family to help me get through my struggles. Instead, because I’m a guy, society just kind of expects me to find a way to overcome my problems by myself and if I don’t then I’m useless.”
10. Stigma of being a man.
“Currently, the simple stigma of being man. A woman can be mad at you and call rape, and it would result in you losing your job. By simply being a man, because men have ‘opposed women for so long,’ what you say is apparently no longer relevant.
I know this is mostly in the eyes of modern feminists, but it’s still something men have to deal with and I find it repulsive.
As well as the fact that men are rarely taken seriously when it comes to abuse or assault. No one takes it seriously if a man says he was raped or harassed/assaulted. If a man says he’s a victim of domestic abuse, he’s laughed at. This makes me so furious.”